First of all, that’s still a really big thing. My husband tried to join the feminist club at university when he was 18 and he was told that men couldn’t be feminists. Every time women say this, or say “you’re a bad feminist,” “you’re not the right kind of feminist...” there’s no such thing as a bad feminist.
Even if every woman in the world believed in feminism, and said they were feminists (and they don’t – the stats are still piss) that’s still only half the world’s population. This idea is like a germ… You want to spread it to as many people as possible. If you will not give this germ of a brilliant, liberating, exciting idea to men then we will never win. We have to make it clear that men are allowed to say they are feminists. And I want them to join the conversation.
I’ve had so many people ask me about trans rights, I’ve had people ask me about sex work, what’s the feminist take on these things? I don’t see any men talking about these subjects. Why are feminists always being asked about sex work? It’s like, I’m neither a sex worker and nor do I use one. It’s your gender that uses them. Why are you not asking what are the kind of men that pay women, who don’t want to have sex with them, for sex?
That’s how feminism for men could start, if they started addressing the problems that we can’t answer. I’d like men to start asking other men that, talk about that. So that’s where we start. Just go, men there’s a whole load of stuff we need help on.