But Own Your Shit, rather than self-indulging in sadness or melancholy, is more like a self-reminder to “grow up and make better decisions,” Elle Murphy confesses. Because behind this song, there’s a story of overcoming pain and maturing as a person. “I was treated so poorly by this guy that I was very loosely seeing but was head over heels obsessed with. I was so embarrassed that it was taking me so long to get over him, so I was trying to make myself go on dates with other people to try and find someone else to be hurt about. If I was hurting over someone else, it wouldn’t be embarrassing that I was still hurting over this loser,” she explains. “Clearly horrible, dumb decisions that did not help anything. But I wanted to be a better person and stop being so sad all the time so I wrote this as a little reminder to myself.”